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Planning a funeral can feel completely overwhelming.
People struggle to think in moments of grief.
A celebrant should take some of the responsibility away and create a service that celebrates life. But many officiants use the same script for each person. This can leave you wondering who is even being spoken about.
In these instances, generic statements can be paired with misinformation. This is always the lasting impression you have from the funeral – when it should be a ceremony where the deceased has been remembered in the right way.
Funerals are a big responsibility. I know first-hand how important it is to get the details right. Choose me as your celebrant and we will work closely together to bring your loved one’s story to life. A funeral service should capture the essence of who they were – not just their story, but their beliefs and values.
More than anything, it should capture their personality and idiosyncrasies. The little details and quiet moments are the ones you will treasure the most. I will reflect them with care and love.
Let’s tell their story – their way.
"Love doesn't end with dying or leave in the last breath" Author unknown.
I believe that a funeral should provide a good ending – not only for the deceased, but for those left behind.
I will support you every step of the way. I have completed training to provide after-life care for the deceased. From when the last breath is taken, to caring for the body at home and the final resting place, I’ll be as involved as you want or need me to be.
Don’t feel pressured to follow convention. We can work together to find the Funeral Director that speaks most strongly to you and explore alternative venues for the service.
“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others" Thucydides.
It can take time to be ready to inter or scatter the ashes when you lose a loved one. It doesn’t have to be right after the funeral – it may be weeks, months, or even years later. There is no timeline you need to stick to – the most important thing is what is right for you.
I will be not only your celebrant, but a hand to hold. We will work together to plan interment or scattering of the ashes in a place that they loved, at a time that is right.
"Just whisper my name in your heart, ...I will be there" Colleen Hitchcock
Many crematoriums have time slots of just 20 minutes, which can leave services feeling rushed and incomplete.
Memorial services are becoming more and more popular. Sitting alongside Direct Cremation, memorial services aren’t restricted by these same time constraints, so we can pause for a second to create an incredible tribute for the deceased.
"You were wild once, don't let them tame you" Isadora Duncan.
A living funeral isn’t so different from a traditional service…. aside from the fact that you will attend!
Living funerals are already common in South Korea and Japan and are becoming more popular in the UK. David Williamson, the Spiritual Care Lead at St Leonards Hospice in York, is even planning to introduce living funerals as a service to patients.
Many people use living funerals to give thanks for their life and celebrate happy times with their loved ones. If you wish to have a living funeral, we will work together to create a day that reflects your wishes – at any time or place you like.
"In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes” Benjamin Franklin.
One of the few guarantees about life is that it needs to end – and we are terrible at talking about it!
The greatest gift you can leave your loved ones is an end-of-life plan. I know from experience how difficult it is to plan not one, but three family funerals when wishes were never openly discussed.
There is a huge lack of education around funerals. Did you know that you don’t need to have a funeral director if you don’t want one? Or even a coffin?
I have founded the first Coffin Club in Aberdeenshire to provide you with the education you need to plan your own funeral, and to help you become more comfortable with death. That way you can have the ending you want.
I put myself in your shoes and deliver the funeral service you need – with the care your loved one deserves. I will speak to not just the family, but friends, neighbours, and anyone else you can think of so you can learn as much as possible about the deceased. Every little detail adds up to create a beautiful picture.
A eulogy should be a fitting tribute to those who mean so much to you. I will always share it with you in advance to prevent misinformation.
Funeral services should be accessible to everyone. I have done specific training to provide inclusive ceremony options for everyone, including those with:
Dementia – If an external venue would add confusion and upset to an already difficult time, we can arrange a family gathering in the home.
Autism – If big crowds are a challenge, we can organise a smaller aspect to the ceremony that everyone can be involved with.
Sensory Issues – Services can be planned to include ear coverings or the opportunity to listen to music, if needed.